THE FOUR THINGS THAT MAKE RELATIONSHIPS SO HARD

Human beings, like other mammals, were never meant to be solitary creatures. We have an innate need to bond and feel connected with others in order to lead a fulfilled life, and so quite often the quality of your life is most powerfully determined by the quality of your relationships. As a result, sometimes one of the biggest causes of stress, frustration, even pain and emotional trauma, often revolves around relationships. And so a lot of people really find themselves quite stuck when it comes to relationships. Classic scenario is being stuck in a relationship, we feel quite unfulfilled but not really wanting to break up either, out of fear that any other relationship would necessarily be any better, but also not knowing how to improve or fix the current relationship.

This is most common in long-term relationships and marriages, but the other classic scenario a lot of people find themselves stuck in is going from problem relationship to problem relationship, where it never really works out and you never really find the one that you want to settle down with. This is often because the person either attracts the wrong kind of partner or is attracted to the wrong kind of partner. It's easy to fall into the trap of blame, but if you're the kind of man who thinks that all women are the problem, or if you're the kind of woman who thinks all men are the problem, I'm sorry but there is not a therapist in the world, unfortunately, that can change the potential pool of partners out there for you. If you want to break free of this pattern, you've got to understand how to work on yourself.