Dad, Why Did You Harm Your Family?

For much of my life, I experienced my father as a source of harm, leaving wounds that shaped our family and remained long after his death.

Years later, still carrying the question why, I began an unexpected journey to understand what had happened-not to excuse it, but to see it more clearly.

Through reflection, a poem read at my father's funeral, and a series of unexpected conversations, a different picture began to emerge. What had appeared as cruelty revealed deeper layers of disconnection, confusion, and a struggle to feel truly alive.

This book explores how harm can arise when a person loses connection with themselves, and how truth, when faced honestly, can begin to loosen even the most painful patterns.

It does not offer simple answers or ask for forgiveness. Instead, it opens a space where understanding becomes possible and where, even in the aftermath of harm, the possibility of healing can quietly begin.