{"product_id":"book-ipr7","title":"Not So Sorry","description":"\u003cp\u003eFrom religious communities to therapeutic spaces, the importance of forgiving those who’ve wronged us is often enshrined as an unqualified good. But what about horrifying cases of abuse, predatory behavior, or systemic wrong? Too often, when predators or abusers are exposed, the chorus comes immediately: “What about forgiveness?” In these cases, forgiveness places the onus on victims, diminishes real hurt and anger, lets perpetrators off the hook, and prevents justice from being done.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp style=\"text-align: start\"\u003eIn \u003cem\u003eNot So Sorry\u003c\/em\u003e, journalist and culture critic Kaya Oakes tackles these questions with intelligence, nuance, and a bit of righteous anger. Ranging from Christian theology and world history to psychology and pop culture, Oakes takes us on a whirlwind tour of the many abuses of the concept of forgiveness, including the abuse scandals of the Catholic church, the outing of high-profile abusers like Larry Nassar, and white America’s obsession with false narratives of marginalized people granting forgiveness to oppressors. Ultimately, Oakes dares us to ask the necessary question: Is it ever better not to forgive?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp style=\"text-align: start\"\u003e\u003cem\u003e“Kaya Oakes challenges those slippery, PR-constructed apologies that leave us rolling our eyes. But she does more than that. Throughout \u003c\/em\u003eNot So Sorry\u003cem\u003e, Kaya Oakes listens to the voices of victims, allows us to wrestle with our assumptions, and leads us on a path to restore justice.”\u003c\/em\u003e—\u003cstrong\u003eRev. Carol Howard\u003c\/strong\u003e, author of \u003cem\u003eHealing Spiritual Wounds: Reconnecting with a Loving God after Experiencing a Hurtful Church\u003c\/em\u003e, and pastor of Bedford Presbyterian Church\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Recorded Books, Inc.","offers":[{"title":"Audiobook","offer_id":49350371148080,"sku":"BDipr7","price":19.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true},{"title":"Audio CD","offer_id":49487726018864,"sku":"ZEipr7","price":49.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true},{"title":"Audio MP3-CD","offer_id":49487726051632,"sku":"ZMipr7","price":45.95,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0879\/2784\/9264\/files\/573670-ipr7-Square.jpg?v=1734283884","url":"https:\/\/downpour.com\/products\/book-ipr7","provider":"Downpour","version":"1.0","type":"link"}